You're hanging out with your partner and cuddling when suddenly he gets up and leaves. You don't know why but it seems as if something you did made him go. When you ask him about it later, he says it has nothing to do with you. So how do you deal with him when he ignores you?
(1)
ASK HIM WHAT'S WRONG :- This should always be your first response. If he tells you, then he's willing to be open and allow you to help him with whatever is bothering him. If he doesn't say and tells you it has nothing to do with you, try not to get offended. Creating more drama will not help him in this situation. Back away and give him his space for a while.
(2)
UNDERSTAND THAT VERY OFTEN, PEOPLE
HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT IS THAT IS BOTHERING THEM :- So naturally it is impossible for them to tell you something they do not know themselves.
(3)
GIVE HIM SPACE AS LONG AS HE NEEDS
IT :- Sometimes a few hours and sometimes a few days is all it can take.
(4)
LET HIM KNOW IF IT'S GETTING TO BE
TOO MUCH :- Escalate your attempts to break through if this behaviour continues despite your efforts to get to the bottom of it. Tell him you care for him, but this is confusing and demoralising to you, and you are approaching the end of your ability to deal with his issues.
(5)
BREAK THE SILENCE BY THROWING YOUR
ARMS AROUND HIM AND HOLDING HIM
CLOSE TO YOU :- Tell him that you care even if he doesn't want to talk, that you will still care and will be there for him if he changes his mind and wants to talk.
(6)
GET COUNSELLING :- It may be that your partner has a clinical mood disorder. If you can get into a counselling situation, this will be recognised and help will be close at hand.
(7)
LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP :- This may be necessary if things do not improve. Don't sentence yourself to a life of misery in which you never know what's on your guy's mind and can't depend on him to be there for you at some point. It should be a two way street, it shouldn't always be about him or you.
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