Keys to having a long and happy relationship.

This is your easy universal guide to maintaining a long and happy relationship together with your love. This is about many things, but it is never about being one sided or demanding. Don't allow your self to be a control freak or fearful and paranoid, but be open and cheerful. It's about how the two of you do this and continue it. (1)

 CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER WISELY :- Having similar tastes, hobbies, temper and goals in life is very important even though you will be opposite in some nice ways. If you two have different relationship goals, you should try to find different partners. It will eventually lead to mild and even harsh conflicts, but even these type of conflicts will help both you and your significant other at the time decide what they really want in a relationship, nothing is ever a waste of time. But without compatibility in your basics it is very hard to maintain a happy relationship. If one is always "going, rushing and imagining" but the other (no matter how lovely) always wants to "stay, stop or forget it all" it is very very hard to be together and make things work for long run.

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 BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING ALWAYS :- Even in the smallest matter, being honest is the most important thing in a relationship. Secrets or dishonesty is like poisonous venom from a deadly snake that will bite you both... when it comes crawling out and it will.

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 NEVER CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER :- Imagine what you would feel if they cheated on you. Would you really want them to feel that way? Could you ruin every month/year you've spent together? Could you break their heart? Keep in mind, that cheating could do permanent damage to your partners self confidence and could ruin their love life completely forever. You will never be trusted again, no matter how you excuse yourself. Is sex really worth ruining your relationship? If you don't feel happy with your partner, break up first.

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 BE OPEN AND INFORMATIVE AS MUCH AS YOU CAN :- Privacy is something that couples need to be completely open about and know exactly what the other expects from them and talk about the issues that you might have. As the relationship continues and those initial boundaries are changing then revise them and eventually in a perfect relationship would have absolutely nothing private from there other, but nothing is perfect so beyond absolutely everything make sure to talk to your partner in full about things and respect the others wishes.

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 RESPECT THE NEED OF YOUR PARTNER :- Keep your wants balanced with theirs. This way no one gets constant advantage. But everyone stays happy.

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 KEEP THEIR BIRTHDAY AND YOUR ANNIVERSARY IN MIND :- This is really important!

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 IF YOU WANT TO MAKE THEM HAPPY, DO SOMETHING YOU KNOW THEY LIKE, OR SOMETHING THEY ALWAYS WANTED TO DO BUT NEVER COULD :- Don't feel like you need a reason to do something for them, things completely out of the blue are sometimes exactly what the other wants. Doing something together is always the best choice though.

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 DON'T EXPECT, BUY OR EVEN REQUEST VALUABLE GIFTS :- These can really poison a relationship if one person seems to be a gold digger. Discuss before hand with your other on what might be OK to spend without having any ideas of items or prices before hand. Plus, if you really put your mind to it the best gifts come from the heart and don't cost an arm and a leg but possibly even free!

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 SPEND AS MUCH TIME TOGETHER AS YOU CAN, BUT AVOID FUSION OR CONFUSION OF YOUR INDIVIDUAL GOALS WITH THE OTHER PERSON'S GOALS :- You will fuse family goals such as for having children together, but not you core needs and beliefs. Neither person should lose reasonable and long standing individual ambitions or goals.

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 BEFORE YOU BECOME IMPATIENT OR UNREASONABLE TRY TO RUN THE, "DO THEY DESERVE MY UNLOADING ON THEM ?" PROGRAM :- No matter what the answer is to that question - No! They don't deserve a "piece of your mind." Be fair by being patient, and ask for patience. Keep calm, this is the key to being happy together. Everyone can have a hard day, or week. All it takes is a huge breath in and out and let your mind do the talking not your mouth (think about what your going to say before you say it).

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 IN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP, VERY LITTLE SHOULD BE TABOO :- Simply, if you are both sensible--anything that you think about might be worth talking about with your partner. Yet an extremely talkative person can drive a partner to distraction and to need a getaway to have some peace and quiet (opposites don't always attract if both or either one is too intrusive or self-centred).

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 DON'T DESPISE OR BE CRUEL ABOUT ANY MANNERISMS OR HABITS THEY HAVE :- Don't force them to do or not do anything. If it is too unacceptable to you then you should decide what is right or wrong for yourself. If they need or ask for your help with changing their bad habit, then you should be as supportive as you can without becoming an enabler.

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 REJECTING THE INSIGNIFICANT LITTLE THINGS THAT THE OTHER DOES IS PART OF A RELATIOSHIP :- Don't try to change your partner (don't be his parent or psychologist). Realize that people have habits and mannerisms that is part of who they are. You will not be able to make them stop and you should love them for who they are. If an issue is significant, like someone who is demanding or belittling, maybe you should rethink the relationship.