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REVIVE DATE-NIGHT :- Going on dates,
even if you've been in a relationship
for years, is still important. In fact, it's
especially important for couples who
have been together long enough to
grow comfortable. Try to go on a date
at least once every month. Some
couples make it a priority to go on one
date every week.
» If you're having trouble imagining
date ideas, try recreating a date you
had with your partner early on in your
courtship. Do exactly the same thing
(s), or put a spin on the date by
reinventing it in a significant way.
» Do something new and exciting.
Doing something that gets your blood
flowing and your heart rate up
enhances feelings of togetherness
between partners. If you're feeling
brave, go on dates that makes you feel
like a kid all over again: going to a
comedy club, taking a cooking class,
or test-driving a new car, to name
only a few.
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PRACTICE FORGIVENESS :- Forgiveness is a
decision of letting go of the past and
focusing on the present. It's about
taking control of your current
situation, as you must offer it to your
partner as much as you demand it
from them.
» Remember who forgiveness really
benefits. Forgiving your partner
absolves him or her, but it also frees
you from carrying around anger and
resentment. Don't view it as an
entirely altruistic act — it's something
you're doing for both of you.
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LAUGH TOGETHER :- Laugh at one another
with the security of love. Laughter
helps the world go 'round, and it may
with your relationship, too. Laughter
helps your body burn calories, increase
blood flow, strengthen the immune
system, and lowers blood sugar levels.
» Laughter can be comforting,
infectious, or an aphrodisiac, and
many things in between. Don't forget
to laugh.
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SUPPORT EACH OTHER :- Being supportive
means making your partner's
happiness and well-being a priority, in
ways big and small. Keep in mind that
part of why you're together in the first
place is that you're each other's biggest
fans, so make sure you act like it. Try
demonstrating your support in these
ways:
» Be a good listener. If your partner
needs you to lend an ear, do it
willingly. You don't always need to
come up with a solution, just support.
» Offer encouragement. If your partner
is trying to make a positive change,
start a new hobby, or undertake a
difficult challenge, be his or her
biggest cheerleader.
» Provide a safe place. Allow your
partner to be vulnerable in front of
you without fear of judgment.
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DEVOTE TIME TO EACH OTHER :- Make
spending time with your partner a
priority, even if it's a little inconvenient
at first. Relationships need shared
experiences to grow, and you're
demonstrating that nurturing yours is
important to you.
» Take up a hobby. Learning something
new together can help you grow
closer, as well as discovering a leisure
activity you both enjoy. Try sports like
tennis or basketball, learning a new
language, cooking, crafting, or
whatever else you've been wanting to
try.
» Find small ways to serve each other.
Doing small acts of service for your
partner shows that you're aware of
what he or she needs, and you're
willing to help out. It doesn't have to
be an extravagant gesture: make
dinner, take care of a small errand, or
offer a foot rub at the end of the day.
Don't make it a big deal, and don't
automatically expect payback.
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DEVELOP BETTER COMMUNICATION :-
Most people aren't born great
communicators — it's something
nearly everyone has to work at. The
way you talk to your partner might
seem small, but you do it several times
a day and it does have an effect.
Consider these fixes:
» Don't use directive language. Try to
keep phrases like "you should" or "you
can't" out of your relationship. You
and your partner are equals, and
neither one of you should have the
authority to direct the other.
» Relay your expectations. If you expect
your partner to do something, say it.
Don't expect that he or she should
read your mind, and don't rely on
hints. Being clear about what you
want gives your partner a fair shot at
succeeding. (And keep the above point
in mind: instead of "You should take
the garbage out every day," say "I'd
really like it if you took the garbage
out every day.")
» Say "please" and "thank you." You
should be able to let loose around
your partner, so there's no need to
worry about having impeccable
manners all the time. The exception
to this is asking nicely and expressing
gratitude when your partner does
something — don't just assume he or
she knows how you meant it.
» Fight fair. Don't just let all these good
communication skills go out the
window during an argument. Try to
get your point across in a loving,
respectful way that doesn't seek to
hurt your partner. If he or she insists
on yelling or throwing insults, quietly
request a calmer attitude.
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